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Healing from Attachment Injuries & Other Betrayals

"The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong at the broken places.” - Ernest Hemingway Have you experienced an incident in which your partner failed to respond to you at a moment of urgent need, which disproportionately has shaped…
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How to Let Go of Resentments- A Step by Step Process

We all have heard that saying: "Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die." So, how does one exactly just LET IT GO?! (violation, abuse, humiliation, injustice, etc.) Similarly, how do people live (not just…
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What Makes for a Good Apology? The Secret to Effective Repairs

Did you know that apologizing or making an "effective repair" is one of the most important skills in a relationship? It's actually well-known across couple therapy models that making a mistake is not the culprit in divorce. It's the lack of…

Top 10 Tips for New Mamas

Motherhood is a universal and unique journey for everyone. No matter if it's "the fastest path to enlightenment", the most profound love you've ever experienced for another human being or the depths of despair if you're experiencing postpartum…
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Top 10 Parenting Strategies- Timeless Guidelines from Love & Logic

As a new parent, I remember a friend saying, "Parenting is the hardest job you'll ever love." This description definitely fit for my son's first year when he barely slept and cried a lot as a colicky baby and yet I still had the deepest…

Do You Feel Like a 3rd Wheel in Your Marriage?

What does being a "third wheel" in your intimate relationship feel like?! Do you ... feel second to something or someone else in your spouse/partner's life? experience a sense of competition or rivalry with activities or relationships…
Setting Boundaries

Guidelines for Visiting Your Family at the Holidays or Vacations

It's HOLIDAY (or vacation) time!!! On the one hand, you want to be surrounded by family at this nostalgic time of the year (and if you're a parent, you likely value your kids bonding with their cousins and other relatives.) On the other…
Have Your Partner's Back and Heart
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Have Your Partner's Back and Heart at the Holidays & Family Events

Did you know that the holidays stress out 88% of Americans? You might be thinking of the cooking, the cleaning, the gift buying, deciding where and with whom to celebrate as the causes, but what I hear from my clients, friends, and even family…
Setting Boundaries
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Setting Boundaries with Your Most Difficult Family Members

Are you ready to step into the ring with your most difficult family members this holiday season or at your family's next event? Read on for ideas or click this YouTube link if you would like to watch my video. In this blog, you will learn…

Find Your Power Within

Find your power within at IMPACT's advanced self-defense class "We all come built in with the wiring we need to survive. It's inside all of us - we are knowing and powerful beyond what any of us can comprehend. Wow. Find it and feel it within…
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21st Century Relationship Skills

"The problem couples are having today is history," according to Terry Real, a couples therapy and gender expert. “If you are like the millions of men and women who feel dissatisfied, you have been trying to negotiate a 21st century relationship…
How to Fail at Marriage

The Top 5 Losing Relationship Strategies (in The New Rules of Marriage)

Relationship strategies that sabotage your marriage As a couples therapist, I often initially hear “We love each other, but...” “We can't communicate. And when we fight, we never get any resolution.” “I can't trust him/her.…
Winning Marriage Techniques

The Top 5 Winning Relationship Strategies (in The New Rules of Marriage)

Expert relationship strategies to have a healthy, happy, long-lasting marriage When couples bravely enter my office, they are hurting. They want the conflict and/or disconnection to end, and the harmony and love to return. They wish to be heard,…
20 Steps in Dealing with Stress Denver CO

20 Ways to Cope with Stress

Are you struggling with anxiety or stress? Treatment for anxiety or stress may include individual therapy (ex. Mindfulness, CBT, DBT, ACT, Expressive Arts Therapy), group therapy, and/or couples or family therapy, medication, nutrition, and…
Coping with Panic Attacks | Denver CO

Coping with Panic Attacks

Are you struggling with panic attacks and anxiety or stress in general? I continue to refer clients to Edmund J. Bourne, Ph.D.'s 2005 book, The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook because it has one of the best and most comprehensive chapters on preventing…
Empowerment Therapy Denver

Empowerment at the Deepest Level - IMPACT Personal Safety of Colorado

A self-defense class that changes lives! (Click here for the YouTube Video). What is IMPACT? IMPACT Personal Safety of Colorado (https://www.impact-colorado.org) is a not-for-profit organization dedicated to restoring empowerment and…

Will and Jada Pinkett-Smith on Marriage & Recovery

Marriage Lessons Learned Over 20+ Years “I’ve learned that recovery isn’t just for those suffering from substance abuse, but that recovery is about recovering from our traumas, abuse, neglect, abandonment, lack of self-worth, disappointments,…
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Do You Have a Mother-in-Law? (or any difficult relatives)

Do you have a mother-in-law? The kind that doesn't "wear beige" and has a critical opinion about everything you do or intermittently shares her opinion with you, so you never know when she'll verbally strike? The kind that boasts about…

Couples in Recovery - Building a Secure Attachment Style

Do you recognize this famous couple in recovery in the photograph below? (portrayed by Winona Ryder & Barry Pepper) *The answer is below... Small, yet SIGNIFICANT hints... The male partner, born in 1895, had a carefree childhood…
Therapy for Couples Denver CO
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Sex, Mess, Kids, Work, & Money- Resolving the Most Common Couple Issues by Going Deeper

When couples come into therapy, they're typically in a lot of pain and confusion and trying their best to make sense of what's gone wrong with their relationship, and what needs to change to make it better. Here are some things they say: "We…
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How Can I Forgive You? The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To

Are you experiencing a relationship wound that occurred recently or decades ago? For example~ feeling unaccepted, unloved, or unprotected by one of your parents estrangement from an adult sibling resentment toward a loved one's…
A Letter to Parents

You are the Most Influential Person in Your Child's Life

Dear Parents, You are the most influential person in your child's life! Therefore, YOU ARE OF COURSE PART OF THE SOLUTION to whatever struggle they're encountering (anxiety, depression, underachievement in school, low self-esteem, anger, self-harm,…
Is there sex after kids?

Is There Sex After Having Kids?

Is There Sex After Having Kids? How to Preserve Emotional and Physical Intimacy After Having a Child Wisdom passed down about how to successfully transition from couplehood to parenthood is surprisingly sparse. We all hear with excitement…