Who I Am
I have been married for two decades and am a mother of a beautiful son. I admit that I didn’t reach 20 years of marriage by chance or luck. My spouse and I reached this milestone in part from tenacity, a lot of trial and error and a willingness to “do the work” and we both feel our relationship is at its strongest place as a result. We are fortunate to be living in a time when there is actual research (a road map) to guide couples in developing secure, healthy, bonds.
I am also a “mamapreneur” and understand the challenges of mothers who work outside the home. Having been a full-time mom for my son’s first two years (after working outside the home), I also have great respect for stay at home parents. I do my best in finding a balance between gratifying work, family time, couple time, and self-care/spiritual growth, and feel grateful for all of it!
Where I’ve Worked
From inner city Chicago to affluent suburbs and more currently the Denver Metro area, I have worked in a variety of settings, such as K-12 schools (as a social worker, teacher, & 504/special education coordinator), intensive outpatient programs for teens and adults, a dual diagnosis transitional residential treatment center, DUI groups, couples & families “teaching clinics” with one way mirrors and filmed sessions, and private practice. One aspect of private practice that I love is being able to work with individuals and family members throughout their life span and support generational change, which is the most powerful change possible.
How I Work with Clients
“The places where you have the biggest challenges in your life are the places where you have the most to give – IF you do your inner work”- Tracy McMillan
First, I look for your strengths to help you remember your true nature and to help you and your partner or family member also rediscover one another’s best qualities.
Next, I will deeply listen to your story of pain and help you feel seen, cared for and understood.
Sometimes our pain stems from traumatic situations that seem to have no purpose or reason. More often than not, if we search, we can eventually find that our greatest challenges are often spiritual gifts in disguise and that reaching out for help, being authentic when we’re struggling and building a support network are actually signs of strength!
Few of us are taught resilience or healthy coping techniques for stress, depression, or life’s challenges or how to create and maintain healthy adult love relationships or family relationships. Therefore, in session and out, you will learn and practice new relationship and personal growth skills to help you break through long-standing impasses and achieve goals you have long desired and deserve.
Thirdly, I will collaborate with you so you can expand your possibilities for healing, change, and growth. This is done by speaking and listening from your heart- expressing your pain, needs, longings, and dreams. Your willingness to engage in deep self-reflection to understand the patterns you and your partner/family members find yourself repeating or stuck in can also help you find new solutions.
It is an honor for me to support, guide, and empower you in healing, moving beyond challenges, and creating the most fulfilling life and relationships. I believe that all of us need help at different points in our lives to break through impasses, accomplish more, and create healthier and happier relationships.
In order to facilitate real change I not only strive to be a compassionate healer, but also an effective one, which includes both being a learner and a teacher. I will create a safe, collaborative space upholding the values of unconditional positive regard, genuineness, and empathy to allow you to speak your true voice and feel supported in trying experiential exercises with your family members. I will also help you grow by sharing direct feedback and suggestions with you about possible areas of needed growth (and teaching you and your family members new skills) to help you reach the goals you identify- while holding you all in the highest regard.
My mission is to empower you to become a relationship hero!
You have the power to change your life and future generations. Most people aren’t able to do this alone. I am continually inspired by my clients’ courage, valiant efforts and extraordinary growth.