Strength-Based Family Therapy

Wherever you are in your family’s life cycle (new baby, school age children, teens, young adults leaving home, and beyond), I can help you build a healthy connection that endures anything. I can also help your family heal and come back together again if you have experienced a trauma, loss, or significant change. If there is love, a willingness to repair hurt, and an openness to having courageous conversations about what every family member needs in their relationship, there is hope.

Families with Young Children (birth-middle school)

Having a baby is one of the most exciting times in a couple’s life and also can be one of the most challenging times because the love, energy, and resources that used to go to the couple’s relationship need to temporarily shift to the baby. I offer a workshop called “Keeping the Spark Alive!” to support parents in nurturing and growing their relationship in order to keep it strong and to work through commonconflicts over sex, mess, kids, work, money, substance use, in-laws, emotional intimacy, etc.

As a regular presenter on “Emotional Wellness in Motherhood” at the Connecting Mamas Group at SCL/Lutheran Hospital, I also support new mothers who are struggling with perinatal mood disorders (baby blues, postpartum depression and anxiety) and adjusting to their new identity and lifestyle choices- staying at home with the baby, working outside the home, or a combination. I empower mothers of young children to remember that self-care is just as important as taking care of their families

Are you new to parenthood and finding that you’re either struggling with your child’s behavior or constantly arguing with your spouse about whose parenting style is the right one? With training in child development and Love and Logic and extensive years of experience working with children of all ages (Pre-K to 12th grade), I can help you sharpen your parenting toolbox and be the united front your child needs you to be.

Parenting Teens

Kids are hardwired to push boundaries with their parents, and it’s our job to hold them. Boundaries = security, safety, and feeling cared for. What allows our kids to grow up to be well-adjusted young adults is not always going to be things that make them happy.

With twenty years of working with teens and parents in schools (as a teacher, 504/Special Education Coordinator, & social worker), addiction and mental health treatment centers, and my private practice, I can help support you, through couples counseling for parents, in being the loving authority figure your teens need you to be.

Having been a peer counselor in high school and knowing as a teen that my calling was to become a counselor, I have a natural affinity and respect for teens. I can also provide individual and family therapy for your teen to help with a variety of issues: stress from over-achievement, family conflict, depression, anxiety, self-harm, low self-esteem, underachievement, learning disabilities, ADHD, not following house rules, substance abuse, and other risky behaviors.

Launching Young Adults

“You can get all sorts of help raising a child, but nothing prepares you for letting her go.” – Doug Block, documentary filmmaker. I have a passion for helping parents successfully launch their young adults due to having personal and professional experiences with parents (and some YA’s) who greatly struggled and needed support and guidance in this phase of life. Many Parents need both a place to grieve their loss and support in launching as well. When parents “launch” themselves, they subsequently free their adult children to leave home.

Families of Adult Children

Some families continue to grow together and others are like branches of a tree growing in different directions while their roots will always remain as one. When family members grow apart, this can be painful for those who wish to continue to have a close relationship with one another. This is where family therapy comes in. I can facilitate a courageous conversation about everyone’s needs and desires, in addition to listening to each other’s past or present hurts that needs to be resolved in order for you all to move forward in having a more honest, satisfying, respectful, and loving relationship.

“Parenting is making the journey with our children toward wholeheartedness. It’s about learning and growing alongside them…This is not about perfectionism. There are a million ways to be a good parent.”

~ Brene Brown, PhD in “The Gifts of Imperfect Parenting”

Our relationship is more solid than ever.

“Therapy has a lot of stigma, but especially relationship counseling. When I talked about going to Lana, sometimes the response I received was, “Oh no! What’s wrong? Are you breaking up?” And it was quite the opposite — we wanted to make sure we continued to treat each other with love. I am a better person and our relationship is more solid than ever. It was a priceless experience and everyone should do it.”

We are closer than we ever thought we could be.

“We made progress in all goals, and even areas we were unaware of. Our relationship is more positive, healthier, and more open today then before treatment. Communication has never been so open between my spouse and myself as it is today. We are closer than we ever thought we could be. Seeking help and assistance is not a weakness. It is the brave who seek therapy and face their issues. Life can be lived more fully if you let yourself face struggles so commonly avoided.”