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Healing from Attachment Injuries & Other Betrayals

"The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong at the broken places.” - Ernest Hemingway Have you experienced an incident in which your partner failed to respond to you at a moment of urgent need, which disproportionately has shaped…
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How to Build (& Rebuild) Trust and Repair from Betrayal

Are you struggling with trust in your intimate relationship? Has trust, the foundation for your love relationship, gradually or instantly eroded by your partner... Not being there for you to connect with on a daily basis, on the weekends,…
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How to Let Go of Resentments- A Step by Step Process

We all have heard that saying: "Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die." So, how does one exactly just LET IT GO?! (violation, abuse, humiliation, injustice, etc.) Similarly, how do people live (not just…
Setting Boundaries
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Setting Boundaries with Your Most Difficult Family Members

Are you ready to step into the ring with your most difficult family members this holiday season or at your family's next event? Read on for ideas or click this YouTube link if you would like to watch my video. In this blog, you will learn…
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Will and Jada Pinkett-Smith on Marriage & Recovery

Marriage Lessons Learned Over 20+ Years “I’ve learned that recovery isn’t just for those suffering from substance abuse, but that recovery is about recovering from our traumas, abuse, neglect, abandonment, lack of self-worth, disappointments,…
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How Can I Forgive You? The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To

Are you experiencing a relationship wound that occurred recently or decades ago? For example~ feeling unaccepted, unloved, or unprotected by one of your parents estrangement from an adult sibling resentment toward a loved one's…
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Couples in Recovery - Building a Secure Attachment Style

Do you recognize this famous couple in recovery in the photograph below? (portrayed by Winona Ryder & Barry Pepper) *The answer is below... Small, yet SIGNIFICANT hints... The male partner, born in 1895, had a carefree childhood…
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How to Differentiate Between Helping and Enabling

I believe that enabling is motivated by LOVE and a desire to protect another person from pain. This intention sounds compassionate and service-oriented, and it is to a degree. Yet, with life's experience and 12 step knowledge, I have also learned…
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Are You in a Codependent, Avoidant, or Securely Attached Relationship?

Codependency is one of the most confused and contested words in the couples therapy field today. There could even be a debate between couples therapists and addiction counselors on whether or not codependency (and the cartoon above!) is healthy…
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How to Get Your Adult Child Out of Your Basement and Into a Thriving, Independent Life

As a couples and family therapist, I have heard numerous… distressing stories of 20, 30, 40, and even 50 somethings still living in their parents' basement using drugs, playing video games, or just hanging out (with perpetual and creative…
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Can I Help My Family Member or Friend with an Addiction?

This is the most common question I hear as an addictions counselor (since 2001). The good news is~ YES, YOU CAN HELP YOUR LOVED ONE GET SOBER! And, if your family needs immediate assistance, call Lana Isaacson, Couples and Family Therapist…