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Winning Marriage Techniques

The Top 5 Winning Relationship Strategies (in The New Rules of Marriage)

Expert relationship strategies to have a healthy, happy, long-lasting marriage When couples bravely enter my office, they are hurting. They want the conflict and/or disconnection to end, and the harmony and love to return. They wish to be heard,…
Is there sex after kids?
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Is There Sex After Having Kids?

Is There Sex After Having Kids? How to Preserve Emotional and Physical Intimacy After Having a Child Wisdom passed down about how to successfully transition from couplehood to parenthood is surprisingly sparse. We all hear with excitement…
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Are You in a Codependent, Avoidant, or Securely Attached Relationship?

Codependency is one of the most confused and contested words in the couples therapy field today. There could even be a debate between couples therapists and addiction counselors on whether or not codependency (and the cartoon above!) is healthy…
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Fighting Well for Both Partners to Win!

Why is fighting (hot conflict) or avoidance/emotional distance (cold conflict) scary for so many people? I think the answer can be found in the underlying fears that people rarely speak about... the fear of being abandoned the fear of…
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Why Love is Not Enough for a Satisfying, Long Lasting Marriage

We hear all of the time that "Love is the answer". I used to think this too... until I had more real world experience in my own marriage and experience as a couple therapist. I still love romance and want my spouse to love and accept me…
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Busy Parents Can Cultivate a Stronger Bond with Their Spouse

Are you a parent who LOVES their children so much that you give them or your work (if you're the sole financial provider) 100%, but then have little energy left over for your spouse at the end of the day? Can you remember the last romantic…