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5 Levels of Communication & Closeness You Can Experience with Your Intimate Partner

No matter what your attachment style is, you crave some level of emotional intimacy and connection.  You may just want to be heard and understood or perhaps deeply feel seen and soothed. But it may feel impossible to increase the intimacy…
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Beyond Roommates~ Top 5 Tips to have a Closer, More Intimate Connection

Do you love your partner and feel like you’re a great team or co-parents, but sense that something is missing in your relationship? Some of the most common concerns I hear from couples today are:  We've become roommates, and no longer…
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How to have hard conversations- that go well!

The #1 problem couples and families identify when seeking therapy~ "We can't communicate." The #1 goal couples and families identify when seeking therapy~ "We need tools for better communication." Since most couples and families LOVE each…
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Transform Your Vicious Cycle Into Positive, Loving Connection

This blog is for any couple or family members who feel caught in negative patterns of disconnection and distress with the people they LOVE. It IS possible to improve your relationships. Read on to learn how. Do you and your partner (or family…
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How Can You Live Like That?! Couples with ADHD

ADHD in adults is real and can drive partners crazy! It can also be treated, and marriages can be saved. Find out how. There was a moment during my first year of marriage that I will always remember. I had moved in to my husband's house…
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What I've Learned from 20 Years of Marriage

"If I hadn't found you... I'd probably be driving somebody else nuts." In close to 21 years, this is my favorite wedding anniversary card I have received from my partner. Of course, I love the poetic language from other cards, but this…
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Healing from Attachment Injuries & Other Betrayals

"The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong at the broken places.” - Ernest Hemingway Have you experienced an incident in which your partner failed to respond to you at a moment of urgent need, which disproportionately has shaped…
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Do You Feel Like a 3rd Wheel in Your Marriage?

What does being a "third wheel" in your intimate relationship feel like?! Do you ... feel second to something or someone else in your spouse/partner's life? experience a sense of competition or rivalry with activities or relationships…
Have Your Partner's Back and Heart
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Have Your Partner's Back and Heart at the Holidays & Family Events

Did you know that the holidays stress out 88% of Americans? You might be thinking of the cooking, the cleaning, the gift buying, deciding where and with whom to celebrate as the causes, but what I hear from my clients, friends, and even family…
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21st Century Relationship Skills

"The problem couples are having today is history," according to Terry Real, a couples therapy and gender expert. “If you are like the millions of men and women who feel dissatisfied, you have been trying to negotiate a 21st century relationship…
How to Fail at Marriage
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The Top 5 Losing Relationship Strategies (in The New Rules of Marriage)

Relationship strategies that sabotage your marriage As a couples therapist, I often initially hear “We love each other, but...” “We can't communicate. And when we fight, we never get any resolution.” “I can't trust him/her.…
Therapy for Couples Denver CO
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Sex, Mess, Kids, Work, & Money- Resolving the Most Common Couple Issues by Going Deeper

When couples come into therapy, they're typically in a lot of pain and confusion and trying their best to make sense of what's gone wrong with their relationship, and what needs to change to make it better. Here are some things they say: "We…
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Fighting Well for Both Partners to Win!

Why is fighting (hot conflict) or avoidance/emotional distance (cold conflict) scary for so many people? I think the answer can be found in the underlying fears that people rarely speak about... the fear of being abandoned the fear of…
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Why Love is Not Enough for a Satisfying, Long Lasting Marriage

We hear all of the time that "Love is the answer". I used to think this too... until I had more real world experience in my own marriage and experience as a couple therapist. I still love romance and want my spouse to love and accept me…