Are you and your partner at a crossroads and need help NOW?

Is your relationship in crisis and needs attention, but your schedules preclude weekly therapy?

Some of the catalysts for choosing a Private Couples Intensive are…

• exploring next steps &/or the viability of your relationship for the future
• having gridlocked conflict
• struggling to have hard, but meaningful and important conversations 
• threatening divorce
• shattered by betrayal
• experiencing the chaos of unresolved mental health or substance use issues (even if these “only” occur once in a while)
• going through the motions like roommates and need to revive your relationship
• feeling profound loneliness due to a “wall” being erected as a result of unhealed wounds & lack of forgiveness

What exactly is a Private Couples Intensive? 

A Private Couples Intensive is a 1-2 day program for couples who are in pain and their relationship needs to be transformed now. Each couples intensive is also a blend of evidenced-based interventions (primarily the EFT map) and is unique because it’s tailored to your specific needs, goals, and relationship dynamics. 

The purpose of an intensive is to help you break through an impasse and shift your relationship from one that is just surviving or in chronic distress due to…

• gridlocked issues (same fight over and over again) and/or relentless anger/criticism
• distance, deprivation, little or no deep intimate connection (you and your partner have become roommates)
• a recent crisis or unhealed past attachment injury (eg. an affair or other betrayal, relapse from addiction, a partner wasn’t there at a critical time, lack of sufficient repair, etc.)

And into a thriving, deeply connected relationship that is based on the elements of attachment~ (feeling safe, seen/accepted, soothed and responded to) to reestablish a SECURE BOND. 

This new type of relationship requires taking risks and being vulnerable, learning the art of attunement, responsiveness, and effective repair (that heals & opens hearts).

It is a DANCE that’s natural because attachment is a built-in survival strategy.

It also requires UNLEARNING– because our society has mislead us to believe myths about love that have led to relationship dissolution. These myths or “stories we tell ourselves” often lead to partners protecting and hiding parts of themselves.

Instead of connecting through intimacy (into me you see), they send “scrambled signals” (eg. anger instead of fear, numb/still face instead of hurt). These mixed messages prevent partners from being fully seen and impede loved one’s ability to effectively and empathically respond to their partner’s underlying pain and longings. 

How I can help you

With my help, partners will get clearer about the negative cycle of disconnection that hijacked their relationship. And through our trusting alliance- Couples are able to~

• take back their relationship!!
• improve their communication by speaking from and listening and responding from their hearts
• having the missing bonding conversations (repair, heal & increase closeness)

I will support you in courageously facing and beginning to work through and heal from crises and conflict and/or disconnection that has devastated your relationship, so you can become each other’s greatest support and feel bonded again.

I will also provide some education about the research on the healing and bonding process for couples. Although there are a lot of different ideas in our society about what makes a relationship work, I will share actual research about what works and only utilize models of couples therapy (EFT, PACT, & Gottman) that have research-proven outcomes.

Investment: 

One-Day Private Couples Intensive Program $1,200

Two-Day Private Couples Intensive Program $2,400

Testimonial:

“Lana, thanks again for a powerful intensive weekend. The intensive helped drill deep into both of our feelings and put some things on the table that we needed to deal with in a much more focused manner.

I was finally able to truly understand the level of hurt I had caused for my wife. Conversation 5 (EFT’s “forgiving injuries”) was the deepest work we’d ever done, and we need to continue with it.

Even though my wife and I have had a very long relationship, before the intensive, we could barely communicate in part because of the pain I caused. After the intensive, we were able to talk better than we had in months, so that was good.

Though our goals were lofty, we made steps toward achieving them. We are very hopeful we can repair our marriage and improve our relationship. I look forward to more couple’s work with you.”