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21st Century Relationship Skills

If you are in immediate need of Real's set of effective tools, here's your quick guide on his “5 Winning Relationship Strategies” and his “5 Losing Relationship Strategies”. Below is information about Real's brilliant observations about…
Winning Marriage Techniques

The Top 5 Winning Relationship Strategies (in The New Rules of Marriage)

Expert relationship strategies to have a healthy, happy, long-lasting marriage When couples bravely enter my office, they are hurting. They want the conflict and/or disconnection to end, and the harmony and love to return. They wish to be heard,…
How to Fail at Marriage

The Top 5 Losing Relationship Strategies (in The New Rules of Marriage)

Relationship strategies that sabotage your marriage As a couples therapist, I often initially hear “We love each other, but...” “We can't communicate. And when we fight, we never get any resolution.” “I can't trust him/her.…
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Do You Have a Mother-in-Law? (or any difficult relatives)

The kind that doesn't "wear beige" and has a critical opinion about everything you do or intermittently shares her opinion with you, so you never know when she'll verbally strike? The kind that boasts about her son being "Father of the…
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Couples in Recovery - Building a Secure Attachment Style

Do you recognize this famous couple in recovery in the photograph below? (portrayed by Winona Ryder & Barry Pepper) *The answer is below... Small, yet SIGNIFICANT hints... The male partner, born in 1895, had a carefree childhood…
Therapy for Couples Denver CO
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Sex, Mess, Kids, Work, & Money- Resolving the Most Common Couple Issues by Going Deeper

When couples come into therapy, they're typically in a lot of pain and confusion and trying their best to make sense of what's gone wrong with their relationship, and what needs to change to make it better. Here are some things they say: "We…
Is there sex after kids?
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Is There Sex After Having Kids?

Is There Sex After Having Kids? How to Preserve Emotional and Physical Intimacy After Having a Child Wisdom passed down about how to successfully transition from couplehood to parenthood is surprisingly sparse. We all hear with excitement…
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Are You in a Codependent, Avoidant, or Securely Attached Relationship?

Codependency is one of the most confused and contested words in the couples therapy field today. There could even be a debate between couples therapists and addiction counselors on whether or not codependency (and the cartoon above!) is healthy or unhealthy. Addiction…
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Fighting Well for Both Partners to Win!

Why is fighting (hot conflict) or avoidance/emotional distance (cold conflict) scary for so many people? I think the answer can be found in the underlying fears that people rarely speak about... the fear of being abandoned the fear of…
Secrets to a Long Lasting Marriage

Why Love is Not Enough for a Satisfying, Long Lasting Marriage

I love romance just as much as anyone else and want my spouse to love and accept me for who I am, and I have also changed my tune about what creates a satisfying, long-lasting marriage after reading relationship expert, Stan Tatkin's books,…
Help for Busy Parents
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Busy Parents Can Cultivate a Stronger Bond with Their Spouse

Are you a parent who LOVES their children so much that you give them or your work (if you're the sole financial provider) 100%, but then have little energy left over for your spouse at the end of the day? Can you remember the last romantic…