Entries by lanaisaacson

Coping with “The Blues”- Healthy Ways to Feel Uplifted!

How is your S.E.L.F. Care? = Sleep Exercise Laugh Food (healthy, of course!) Self-esteem work such as positive affirmations Exercise releases endorphins – “feel good” hormones or play favorite sport Eat healthy or comfort foods and drink lots of water for energy & health Get a good night’s sleep on a consistent basis Laugh! Watch […]

The 10 Best-Ever Anxiety Management Techniques

Based on the work by Margaret Wehrenberg (author), 2008 I. Managing the Anxious Body 1. Change Your Intake Limit your C.A.T.S. (caffeine, alcohol, tobacco, & sweetener), Set communication boundaries to reduce always having to be on alert, ex. Turn off your phone, Take sensory breaks, ex. sit in a quiet space, Eat nutritious foods. 2. […]

Coping with Panic Attacks

(Source: The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook, 2005, by Edmund J. Bourne, Ph.D.) A panic attack is the sudden onset of intense fear and anxiety that can occur out of the blue or in response to encountering (or just thinking about) a phobic situation. Panic attacks can include the following: • Bodily symptoms such as trembling, […]

Empowerment at the Deepest Level – IMPACT Personal Safety of Colorado

A self-defense class that changes lives! (Click here for the YouTube Video). What is IMPACT? IMPACT Personal Safety of Colorado (https://www.impact-colorado.org) is a not-for-profit organization dedicated to restoring empowerment and choice by equipping participants with the emotional, verbal, and physical skills to move freely in the world. Classes are offered for men, women, LGBTQIA, teens, and […]


21st Century Relationship Skills

If you are in immediate need of Real’s set of effective tools, here’s your quick guide on his “5 Winning Relationship Strategies” and his “5 Losing Relationship Strategies”. Below is information about Real’s brilliant observations about the difference between 20th and 21st century relationships. (Clarification: The information in this blog applies to couples of all […]

The Top 5 Losing Relationship Strategies (in The New Rules of Marriage)

Relationship strategies that sabotage your marriage As a couples therapist, I often initially hear “We love each other, but…” “We can’t communicate. And when we fight, we never get any resolution.” “I can’t trust him/her. S/he doesn’t put me first.” (view partner more as an enemy than an ally) “We’ve grown apart, feel disconnected, or no […]


Couples in Recovery – Building a Secure Attachment Style

Do you recognize this famous couple in recovery in the photograph below? (portrayed by Winona Ryder & Barry Pepper) *The answer is below… Small, yet SIGNIFICANT hints… The male partner, born in 1895, had a carefree childhood in rural Vermont until, at the age of 11, his parents divorced, and more significantly, his father moved to British Columbia, which likely felt like […]

How Can I Forgive You? The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To

Are you experiencing a relationship wound that occurred recently or decades ago such as… feeling unaccepted, unloved, or unprotected by one of your parents, estrangement from an adult sibling, resentment toward a loved one’s addiction or mental illness for ruining a milestone event in your life, profound hurt toward your partner for betraying you, despair about […]


How to Differentiate Between Helping and Enabling

I believe that enabling is motivated by LOVE and a desire to protect another person from pain. This intention sounds compassionate and service-oriented, and it is to a degree. Yet, with life’s experience and 12 step knowledge, I have also learned that enabling is influenced by an overly developed sense of RESPONSIBILITY for others and […]


Is There Sex After Having Kids?

Is There Sex After Having Kids? How to Preserve Emotional and Physical Intimacy After Having a Child Wisdom passed down about how to successfully transition from couplehood to parenthood is surprisingly sparse. We all hear with excitement and trepidation, “A baby changes everything”, but we don’t exactly know what this means until we experience it. […]


You are the Most Influential Person in Your Child’s Life

Dear Parents, YOU ARE THE MOST INFLUENTIAL PERSON IN YOUR CHILD’S LIFE! Therefore, YOU ARE OF COURSE PART OF THE SOLUTION to whatever struggle they’re encountering (anxiety, depression, underachievement in school, low self-esteem, anger, self-harm, etc.). I began my career as a school social worker and although I have had an affinity with teens since I […]


Are You in a Codependent, Avoidant, or Securely Attached Relationship?

Codependency is one of the most confused and contested words in the couples therapy field today. There could even be a debate between couples therapists and addiction counselors on whether or not codependency (and the cartoon above!) is healthy or unhealthy. Addiction counselors would likely say that codependency originates in childhood manifests as healthy relationship with oneself and a […]


Fighting Well for Both Partners to Win!

Why is fighting (hot conflict) or avoidance/emotional distance (cold conflict) scary for so many people? I think the answer can be found in the underlying fears that people rarely speak about… the fear of being abandoned the fear of being rejected the fear of being hurt if your feelings/needs are dismissed (emotional deprivation) the fear […]

Why Love is Not Enough for a Satisfying, Long Lasting Marriage

I love romance just as much as anyone else and want my spouse to love and accept me for who I am, and I have also changed my tune about what creates a satisfying, long-lasting marriage after reading relationship expert, Stan Tatkin’s books, reflecting on my professional experience as a couples therapist, and honestly looking at […]

The Kids Grow Up; Letting Go is Hard to Do

“You can get all sorts of help raising a child, but nothing prepares you for letting her go.” – Doug Block, documentary film maker of “The Kids Grow Up; Letting Go is Hard to Do As a parent of a high school senior about to leave home, are you feeling… Elation or relief at the […]


How to Let Go of Shame & Perfectionism

Ten years ago, I came across “The Cracked Pot” story and was moved by the lines, I have always known about your flaw and took advantage of it by planting flower seeds.”Without your being just the way you are, he would not have had this beauty to grace his house.”I immediately knew I wanted to […]


Compassion Can End Mommy Perfectionism & Competition

“We’re killing ourselves trying to be perfect and it’s making us insane.” – Amy, Mom of two (Mila Kunis in “Bad Moms”) I think mothers today are lucky to have affirming pop cultural messages from movies like “Bad Moms”, which encourages moms to: accept and laugh at ourselves for being imperfect moms (human) stop pretending […]

Begin in Savasana & Other Self-Care Ideas for Busy Moms

“Only when we learn that taking care of ourselves is as necessary as taking care of our families; only when we begin to accept ourselves, imperfections and all; only when we permit ourselves to face the limits of what we can do for the people we love do we achieve our fullest potential as mothers. […]

Through the Yellow Door- A Mother’s Journey to Kindergarten

The yellow door is the FIRST of many… that I cannot follow you through. I can only have faith that you’ll be okay with your new Kindergarten crew. Gone are the long days of motherhood when we explored together- front carrying, hiking, stroller running, biking- in spite of the crazy Colorado weather. As a working […]